Do You Want To Be Loved?

Stop waiting for people that don't know how to love themselves to love you, before you get how great and wonderful you are.  See yourself through your own eyes truthfully first and then let others see and may be love that You.

Loving yourself shows up in many different ways.  What you say to yourself, what you eat, what you do with your life, who you spend time with.  How often you put yourself first and take the time to do what lights you up inside?  How often do you take the time to make yourself laugh?  Are you good fun to be by yourself?  Do you find yourself interesting?

This is about what you think of you, not what you think other people think of you.  What they think of you, you will never know for real because the majority will never really know what they think about you either.  They will have an idea of the part of you that they get to see, as only you are with You 24/7 and know the story of your life.  So their ideas of you aren't the truth.

This is not vanity, no, it is actually vital maintenance in the upkeep of you, your happiness which dictates the health that you experience in this life.  If you are down on yourself you leave yourself open to ill health however that may show up for you.  Kindness and love towards yourself will keep your immune system strong and you will experience greater health. 

There are no medals given at the end of your life for having loved others and not yourself, for having lived a miserable dull existence because you didn't do what was right for you to experience true happiness.

This is your life experience and yours alone.  You come in alone and you leave alone.  All our encounters with others are experiences of life and a mirror of our own world.  They are there as a guide to our life, so to expect them to give us something before we give it to ourselves is a waste of time.  It can't happen. 

We can only ever see ourselves through our own eyes and we can only ever be truly loved and adored for all that we are by ourselves. When we choose see all that is worth loving and celebrating then we set the example to those around us.  When we don't do that we let those in to our world that reflect that lack of love in the way they treat us.

I can no more be with people that regularly run themselves down than those that are drug addicts.  To be unkind to yourself with words or drugs, they are both as damaging and you can be sure that if people damage themselves in that way they sure aren't ever going to take any better care of you.  They can't because their behaviour towards themselves couldn't happen if they knew how to love and treasure something.  They might need you, but never confuse need with love, because their need for you will always be about what you provide for them, someone to moan at, someone to rage at, someone to be there to prop them up when they can't prop themselves up. 

When you make seeing your greatness a priority and believe me when you take the time to start to see your greatness it is there, no matter who you are; and you give yourself the love you need then you immediately start to raiser the bar of how your loved and how much by others, because you wouldn't let anything less than your level stay in your world.