Don't Worry, Be Happy Now

For all the things people get good at, many are well practised in the art of worry.

Worrying Facts:

1.                  The worry is never really about the subject itself, and is really about how the outcome of the perceived situation may affect the worrier. 

2.                  Worry is always about the outcome of future events that may or may not happen, events that can never be accurately predicted – so basically it’s a complete waste of time and energy.

3.                  When you worry it changes your physiology which has a long-term effect on your health.  Your brain doesn’t know the difference between what is real and that which you perceive may happen, so when you’re feeling anxious or afraid through worry about a future event, your brain reacts as if it’s real and happening now, and floods your body with the required chemical e.g. adrenaline to prepare you for danger.  Your body can’t withstand constant bombardment of negativity or fear and eventually it manifests externally in the form of illness or depression.  So when you hear someone say “I’m worried sick” if they aren’t now, they will be.

4.                  Because all worry is about future events, we can’t take action and, therefore, render ourselves powerless to act. When we feel powerless we either become angry or depressed.  Whichever way you look at it you feel bad and again overload your body with responsive chemicals.

5.                  Time spent worrying is time not spent being in the moment and appreciating your life, your loved ones or planning the good things to do with your life. Worrying is literally a waste of life.

6.                  Worries can become your reality.  E.g. the jealous partner that worries that their other half might cheat on them. They worry and become suspicious, their behaviour changes for the worst, their partner becomes so tired of reassuring them or living with the jealousy they eventually cheat or leave or both.

7.                  Over time your wrinkles will match your general mood.  If you’re a worrier you get worry lines.  Laughter lines are the ones you want.

Reasons people worry

1.                  They’re scared that they won’t be able to deal with a perceived situation

2.                  They’ve practised worrying for so long they don’t know how not to.

3.                  They love a good drama

4.                  They want attention

So stop worrying and know that….

The world really is a magical place. You have no way of knowing how anything will play out, there could be a solution to anyone of the worries that you may have that you couldn’t have even conceived of.  Things that are seemingly impossible happen all the time to all different kinds of people, so it really is a complete and utter waste of time trying to work out the outcome of a situation.  Anything could come from left field that you didn’t see in your mental scenario.

You’re here now, so you’ve obviously dealt with other situations in the past, Think about those things that you dealt with, be proud of yourself, see your strengths and then believe that whatever new situations turn up for you in life, that you can deal with and get through them also.

Your mental state will be a happier lighter one which means that your body will be happier and healthier.

Your mind can turn a relatively trivial situation in to a mountainous one, so what you fear is never as bad as it seems in your mind.

Deal with that which turns up at this moment only, this moment is all that you have.

Have an arsenal of things that you can know are good and that happen for you no matter how small they are. It helps to write them down as you can then picture the list.  Prepare them when you’re not worrying so you can spring into action as soon as you are aware of a worry coming on.

When you catch yourself starting to worry, talk to yourself (quietly if you’re not alone), tell yourself gently ‘no’ and go back to your good things list.

Don’t join in with everyday ‘worry talk’ with others, gently change the conversation to something positive and upbeat. Failing that make your excuses and leave.

The only worry is the one that is in your mind.   The future truly is not set and it is what we make it, a minute at a time.

‘Coward dies a thousand times, a brave man only once.’

Have a good one

Dxxx