We’re living in interesting times in more ways than one, geologically and economically are two things that immediately come to mind based on current events. A lot of things in the world are in a state of flux for us as individuals as well as inhabitants of this beautiful blue planet.
With all these things taking place there are times for most of us when we start to wonder how these events are going to play out. The thing is we can never know the outcome of anything for sure. We can make predictions that may be close to the truth but until something actually happens everything is a fiction.
One example being, sometime back in 2003 a comet twice the size of Jupiter (the largest known planet in our solar system) came from behind the sun towards us. It was thought that based on it’s trajectory it was on course to crash in to the sun, this would have been catastrophic for us, potentially it could have been what is known as an Extinction Level Event here on Earth. There was nothing broadcast about it until after the event as based on the few reports that have come out from NASA about it, we were potentially finished as a planet, there was nothing anyone could do to destroy a comet of that magnitude, so why worry people about something that no one had any control over? We were apparently saved by a sun flare that burst out as it neared the sun which pushed it off of it’s current course, and away from the sun.
Now I appreciate this is an extreme example but I bet it’s one that you won’t forget in a hurry and yes I’m sure that what we may have all felt at the time would have been way off the scale of worry. Clean underwear for all would probably most likely have been at the top of the worlds wish list should news of that one have ever broken.
Seriously though, of all the things people get good at, many are well practised in the art of worry.
Worrying Facts:
1. The worry is never really about the subject itself, and is really about how the outcome of the perceived situation may affect the worrier.
2. Worry is always about the outcome of future events that may or may not happen, events that can never be accurately predicted – so basically it’s a complete waste of time and energy.
3. When you worry it changes your physiology which has a long-term effect on your health. Your brain doesn’t know the difference between what is real and that which you perceive may happen, so when you’re feeling anxious or afraid through worry about a future event, your brain reacts as if it’s real and happening now, and floods your body with the required chemical e.g. adrenaline to prepare you for danger. Your body can’t withstand constant bombardment of negativity or fear and eventually it manifests externally in the form of illness or depression. So when you hear someone say “I’m worried sick” if they aren’t now, they will be.
4. Because all worry is about future events, we can’t take action and, therefore, render ourselves powerless to act. When we feel powerless we either become angry or depressed. Whichever way you look at it you feel bad and again overload your body with responsive chemicals.
5. Time spent worrying is time not spent being in the moment and appreciating your life, your loved ones or planning the good things to do with your life. Worrying is literally a waste of life.
6. Worries can become your reality. E.g. the jealous partner that worries that their other half might cheat on them. They worry and become suspicious, their behaviour changes for the worst, their partner becomes so tired of reassuring them or living with the jealousy they may eventually cheat or leave or both.
7. Over time your wrinkles will match your general mood. If you’re a worrier you get worry lines. If you’re going to get lines make them of the laughter variety.
Reasons people worry
- They’re scared that they won’t be able to deal with a perceived situation
- They’ve practised worrying for so long they don’t know how not to.
- They love a good drama
- They want attention
So stop worrying and know that….
The world really is a magical place. You have no way of knowing how anything will play out, there could be a solution to anyone of the worries that you may have that you couldn’t have even conceived of. Things that are seemingly impossible happen all the time to all different kinds of people, so it really is a complete and utter waste of time trying to work out the outcome of a situation. Anything could come from left field that you didn’t see in your mental scenario.
Deal with that which turns up at this moment only, this moment is all that you have, your mental state will be a happier lighter one which means that your body will be happier and healthier.
Your mind can turn a relatively trivial situation in to a mountainous one, so what you fear is never as bad as it seems in your mind.
Have an arsenal of things that you know are good in your life no matter how small they are. It helps to write them down as you can then picture the list. Prepare them when you’re not worrying so you can spring into action as soon as you are aware of a worry coming on.
When you catch yourself starting to worry, talk to yourself (quietly if you’re not alone), tell yourself ‘no’ and go back to your good things list.
Don’t join in with everyday ‘worry talk’ with others, find a way to move off of the conversation to something positive and upbeat. Failing that make your excuses and leave.
The only worry is the one that is in your mind. The future truly is not set and it is what we make it, a minute at a time.
‘A coward dies a thousand times, a brave man only once.’
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