Your Anger May Just Be Your Best Friend

It has been a re-occuring theme for me these past few months...anger.  Mine, my families and now my friends.  Something is going on, surely we can't all be losing the plot!

Over the years I have learnt (sometimes the hard way) to take an emotion and work it through to it's conclusion.  To feel the emotion, to list where, when and by whom it seems to be created and then acknowledge that at the end of it all, it ultimately comes back to me.  A toughie to sometimes fully accept, but nevertheless the truth.

It is so easy to stay stuck halfway through the cycle, where we blame something or someone outside of ourselves for what it going on in our lives, the truth?...it is never really about them, it is about us.  Anything and everything that happens is always only ever at it's core about us and that's a good thing.  When we make it about someone else we immediately give away our power, we become victims to circumstance rather than masters of our own destiny.

In those moments we always have a choice as to how we view things.  Are we victims or in charge?Is something a drama or a do-over? a chance to make changes. 

Our emotions are our guidance system to alert us as to where we are on our life's journey.  Happiness, joy and love let us know that we are right where we want to be.  Anger, jealousy and hopelessness are indicators that we are off track.  The great thing is that nothing lasts forever, change, whether we like it or not, is always iminent, so do we role with the changes and welcome in the new or do we try and cling on in vain to what is?

Your anger, your fears, your low moments are all just ways of life telling you that it's time for a do-over should you choose to accept the invitation, that is your choice alone, always has been and always will be and rest assured there will always be an invitation to make that choice and in a world that is experiencing great change on many levels and is in a state of flux, we are feeling those changes more each day and what is going on in the world is mirrored in our personal lives one way or another.  For some it's health issues, for others it may be financial or relational.  

So when you start to feel stressed or upset by an incident, take a moment to acknowledge that if you let it, it's here to be your friend and guide you towards what's next in your life.

 

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Morning - "Deep within us dwell slumbering powers: Powers that would astonish us, that we never dreamed of possessing. Forces that could revolutionise our life, turn it around and put it into action." Orison Swett Marden - Success Magazine

The Biggest Lies

The biggest lies are the ones we tell ourselves about the story of our lives. Playing the blame game & not seeing that we & we alone are entirely responsible for where we are today. Until we can see the truth & be honest with ourselves then we are unable & unwilling to accept that responsibility & until that is done we cannot begin to make changes in our relationships, our wealth, our health & our very happiness.

It starts with willingness, to be willing to acknowledge the truth, be willing to accept responsibility - just the act of willingness will instantly open up the quantum field of possibilities which are infinite.

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‎"My true religion, my simple faith is in love and compassion. There is no need for complicated philosophy, doctrine, or dogma. Our own heart, our own mind, is the temple. The doctrine is compassion. Love for others and respect for their rights and dignity, no matter who or what they are - these are ultimately all we need." 
-Dalai Lama -

Acidic V's Alkaline Body - For Your Health

We are made up predominantly of water, therefore it makes absolutely no sense whatsoever to create an acidic environment within our bodies, but that is exactly what the modern lifestyle is creating - We should not be expecting to get cancer at some point and all this is totally preventable.

Vitamin D is better than ANY vaccine and increases the immune system by 3-5 times

Vitamin D provided by our life giving sun - quit slathering yourself in sun cream it blocks your ability to absorb this life sustaining vitamin - that said common sense required here - it's still only mad dogs and Englishmen who go out in the midday sun :-)

Recommended article, please read

Check out this great article:

http://www.NaturalNews.com/032971_Gwen_Olsen_Big_Pharma.html

It's really interesting!

Republicans defend 'personal liberty' in battle to ban energy-saving lightbulbs

http://www.guardian.co.uk/environment/2011/jul/11/republicans-lightbulbs

Now this one I can get behind - Energy saving lightbulbs ARE hazardous to our health & our environment - see Dirty Electricity + Mercury (highly toxic) Content - it's a hazard to us, our kids & Mother Earth - but it's also about freedom of choice.

I Live Without Cash & I Manage Just Fine

http://www.guardian.co.uk/environment/green-living-blog/2009/oct/28/live-with...

An interesting article - it's more about returning back to a connected way of being, than the actual loss of money - though that said it is eventually what needs to happen if we are ever to find peace - it's about connecting to who we are and that is done by understanding our place in the world and with each other, that is the key to our survival and our evolution.

“If more of us valued food and cheer and song above hoarded gold, it would be a merrier world.” - J.R.R. Tolkien quotes

Nothing Changes Until You Do

Dance for peace, dance for the world in which you wish to live in - KNOW that you have the power to make the changes - it's up to the people, each and every one of us knowing who we are individually and then coming together collectively.

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The Light Bulb Conspiracy

Don’t Worry, Be Happy Now

We’re living in interesting times in more ways than one, geologically and economically are two things that immediately come to mind based on current events.  A lot of things in the world are in a state of flux for us as individuals as well as inhabitants of this beautiful blue planet. 

With all these things taking place there are times for most of us when we start to wonder how these events are going to play out.  The thing is we can never know the outcome of anything for sure.  We can make predictions that may be close to the truth but until something actually happens everything is a fiction.

One example being, sometime back in 2003 a comet twice the size of Jupiter (the largest known planet in our solar system) came from behind the sun towards us.  It was thought that based on it’s trajectory it was on course to crash in to the sun, this would have been catastrophic for us, potentially it could have been what is known as an Extinction Level Event here on Earth.  There was nothing broadcast about it until after the event as based on the few reports that have come out from NASA about it, we were potentially finished as a planet, there was nothing anyone could do to destroy a comet of that magnitude, so why worry people about something that no one had any control over?   We were apparently saved by a sun flare that burst out as it neared the sun which pushed it off of it’s current course, and away from the sun.

Now I appreciate this is an extreme example but I bet it’s one that you won’t forget in a hurry and yes I’m sure that what we may have all felt at the time would have been way off the scale of worry.  Clean underwear for all would probably most likely have been at the top of the worlds wish list should news of that one have ever broken.

Seriously though, of all the things people get good at, many are well practised in the art of worry. 

Worrying Facts:

1.             The worry is never really about the subject itself, and is really about how the outcome of the perceived situation may affect the worrier. 

2.             Worry is always about the outcome of future events that may or may not happen, events that can never be accurately predicted – so basically it’s a complete waste of time and energy.

3.             When you worry it changes your physiology which has a long-term effect on your health.  Your brain doesn’t know the difference between what is real and that which you perceive may happen, so when you’re feeling anxious or afraid through worry about a future event, your brain reacts as if it’s real and happening now, and floods your body with the required chemical e.g. adrenaline to prepare you for danger.  Your body can’t withstand constant bombardment of negativity or fear and eventually it manifests externally in the form of illness or depression.  So when you hear someone say “I’m worried sick” if they aren’t now, they will be.

4.             Because all worry is about future events, we can’t take action and, therefore, render ourselves powerless to act. When we feel powerless we either become angry or depressed.  Whichever way you look at it you feel bad and again overload your body with responsive chemicals.

5.             Time spent worrying is time not spent being in the moment and appreciating your life, your loved ones or planning the good things to do with your life. Worrying is literally a waste of life.

6.             Worries can become your reality.  E.g. the jealous partner that worries that their other half might cheat on them. They worry and become suspicious, their behaviour changes for the worst, their partner becomes so tired of reassuring them or living with the jealousy they may eventually cheat or leave or both.

7.             Over time your wrinkles will match your general mood.  If you’re a worrier you get worry lines.  If you’re going to get lines make them of the laughter variety.

Reasons people worry 

• They’re scared that they won’t be able to deal with a perceived situation
•  They’ve practised worrying for so long they don’t know how not to.
•  They love a good drama
•   They want attention

 So stop worrying and know that….

The world really is a magical place. You have no way of knowing how anything will play out, there could be a solution to anyone of the worries that you may have that you couldn’t have even conceived of.  Things that are seemingly impossible happen all the time to all different kinds of people, so it really is a complete and utter waste of time trying to work out the outcome of a situation.  Anything could come from left field that you didn’t see in your mental scenario.

Deal with that which turns up at this moment only, this moment is all that you have, your mental state will be a happier lighter one which means that your body will be happier and healthier.

Your mind can turn a relatively trivial situation in to a mountainous one, so what you fear is never as bad as it seems in your mind.

Have an arsenal of things that you know are good in your life no matter how small they are. It helps to write them down as you can then picture the list.  Prepare them when you’re not worrying so you can spring into action as soon as you are aware of a worry coming on.

When you catch yourself starting to worry, talk to yourself (quietly if you’re not alone), tell yourself ‘no’ and go back to your good things list.

Don’t join in with everyday ‘worry talk’ with others, find a way to move off of the conversation to something positive and upbeat. Failing that make your excuses and leave.

The only worry is the one that is in your mind.   The future truly is not set and it is what we make it, a minute at a time.

‘A coward dies a thousand times, a brave man only once.’

How You View Yourself Determines What You Do

How you choose to view yourself is key to what you believe you are capable of.  Do you see yourself as a person who experiences success in life or as a big fat failure? May be you find yourself roaming around in the middle somewhere.  I grew up being told not to “blow my own trumpet” and that “no one likes a big-head” which is what you were if you talked about yourself positively. 

Thing is, your behaviours and actions are as a direct result of how you see yourself and your behaviours and actions are reflected back at you in your external world.  If you see yourself as successful inwardly you behave as someone who experiences success and others treat you accordingly.  Likewise if you see yourself generally as a failure you behave and act as a failure would, not taking the risks and doing what you need to do in order to experience success.  

You have to have some belief, no matter how small, that you can achieve something, otherwise you just don’t bother to set out in the first place.  Imagine you’re single and you’re contemplating going out on the town with a view to meeting someone, ‘pulling’ was the expression in my dim and distant memory of single life.   Do you see yourself as someone who has luck with the opposite sex, someone that’s worthwhile for them to want to talk to and interact with?  Or have you already asked yourself who would be interested in you?  Depending upon the answer to that one, will determine whether you even make it outside the front door. 

Once out there, I’m sure we’ve all encountered the sleazebag that thinks they’re gods gift, when they are anything but, or the person who appears to have it all but is chronically shy, because they cannot see their beauty through all their perceived faults. It’s all about how they are viewing themselves, it’s about their internal dialogue that accompanies those thoughts.

The story of our lives so far is a direct reflection of how we view ourselves and what we believe capable or deserving of.   With the advent of reality TV we have become more judgemental of each other than ever, trouble is, the judgements that we make against others aren’t that different to the ones we fear about ourselves.  

To step out and take a risk takes courage even for those that have belief in themselves and their ideas, to handicap ourselves with negative ideas about who we are and what we have to offer is a completely nonsensical thing to do.

Thing is we human beings are actually truly amazing.

The very fact that we are here at all, any one of us means that we are the best of the best.  Our ancestors have to have survived all manner of natural and manmade perils in order for us to be here today.  Wars, famines, earthquakes, disease, even the act of being born was perilous for both mother and baby not that long ago, not to mention getting safely through the first few years of life, yet they made it.  They have to have made it for you to be here now.  You are the end result of thousands of years of mans struggle to survive.  Start there.

You have talents that no one else on this earth possesses, sure we may share similar talents but no one does what you do the way you do it and never will.

Ever watched It’s A Wonderful Life?  When life has taken a turn for the worst, George Bailey tries to kill himself believing that his family would be better off without him, an angel named Clarence comes to show him that just by being born he has impacted people’s lives in a positive way, ways in which he doesn’t even know.  I guarantee that you will have done that too.  You may never know or see how but everywhere you’ve ever interacted with people, whether you realise it or not, you have impacted their lives.

If you want success on any level, as a partner, in your career, as a friend, a parent or any one of the many different hats we wear these days you first have to choose to see yourself in a positive light.  For some this is not always an easy thing to do, but it is an absolutely necessary one in order for you to make the best of your life.

I started writing blogs a few years ago but after a while I took a negative viewpoint on my ability to write anything meaningful, anything that would create an impact in someone else’s life, so I stopped.  A friend who was having some problems a while back texted me to thank me as something I had said had made her see things differently, which had gone some way towards helping her deal with those problems.  I couldn’t recall when, where or how as we don’t have a close friendship where we have deep and meaningful conversations.  Turns out she knew I was into personal development, and one day, at a particularly low point she Googled me and came across my blogs and read some of them.  It was in one of them that she had found a sentence changed her perspective on the problem.  Thing is now I wonder how many other people I may have helped if I had chosen to view my contribution differently and continued?...

If you’re used to seeing yourself from a predominantly negative viewpoint then you need to take steps to turn that around.  You’ve spent time learning to be down on yourself and now you have to learn how to see yourself in a positive way.

Some suggestions:

• Write some of the successes in your life, doesn’t matter how big or small they are, find them and write them down, lets say 20 even if it starts with the one I gave you, I am from a long line of survivors, I’m from the best of the best.
• Keep out around your home anything that may remind you of your successes, awards, badges, photos, certificates.
• Write them down, there is something very powerful in the written word.  I find having a list of my successes helpful when I’m having an oh woe is me day and my successes are readily coming to mind, I make myself read my list.
• Stand in front of a mirror at the end of each day and congratulate you on all the successes that you’ve had in that day.  This one I heard from Jack Canfield – Chicken Soup For The Soul – I have to say I really struggled with this one and felt a right chump standing there.  He does say that it’s something that can cause adverse reactions in people as they find it so challenging, butthere is something powerful in hearing your successes spoken out loud in front of you.  It’s harder for you to ignore.  The bigger the resistance the more you need to do it as it’s a gauge as to how negative you can be about yourself. 

“Cause the words that come from your mouth

You're the first to hear

Speak words of beauty and you will be there

No matter what anybody says

What matters most is what you think of yourself”  Get It Together - India Arie

 

Mind Your Own Business

This expression has become synonymous with accusing someone of nosing in to someone else’s affairs, and warning them to get out of it.

Instead though how about seeing this as really good advice for life. 

We are all so busy caught up in what is going on outside of us because we see those that are in our lives as extensions of ourselves to varying degrees, from immediate family to friends and acquaintances. 

In our everyday language we label people as ‘my’ something or other, husband, wife, brother, sister and so on.  By laying claim to them over and over in our daily conversations their behaviours and their effects upon us, become entwined in that ownership too.   We feel positive emotions around those that display desired social behaviour and achievements, and on the flipside we feel negative emotions to those that don’t.

As a mum I have many a time experienced pride when someone compliments me on my children’s good behaviour and similarly have cringed when they’re little horns are out.  The thing is though, that whatever the behaviour it’s about me.   In an ideal, enlightened world I would not be affected by other peoples opinions of my kids it would be enough that they are able to express all aspects of themselves, however that manifests itself.  Still working on that one, some days harder than others.

The very act of labelling something immediately makes it measurable.  We all have ideas of how partners should behave, so labelling someone brings with it a set of pre-conceived behavioural ideals.  When they measure above and beyond we judge that things are good, even great.  When they don’t display the pre-conceived ideals we then complain that they are behaving badly.  Thing is though that all the time we are judging any type of behaviour we are not paying attention to ourselves and what we are doing in our own lives, we loose sight of that which is truly important… us.

I wrote in a previous blog that we are not multi-tasking and we’re not, jugglers yes, multi-taskers…NO.

If we are busy judging and thinking about the behaviours and attitudes of others we are not centred.  We are not in our own business we are in theirs.  All our woes and upsets are about what others are doing or not doing that we don’t like, find offensive, feel un-loved.  Thing is regardless of whether you’re right about those things, that’s them and who they are and that is ultimately their business, not yours.

Your focus is you and should be only you.  Now this is where people start jumping up and down and the word selfish gets bandied about.  This is anything but, when you are focused on your own set of behaviours and inner world and understand that they are the only thing that you have any real control over, you are liberated from the effects of the behaviours of others. 

We are individual expressions of the Universe experiencing itself as life.  In this case you.  That is the same story for those that you know, but they are the Universe experiencing itself as them.  Each one of us is unique, a one off never to be repeated, here to experience life in this borrowed and ultimately short time that we are here.  Wasting it by getting hung up on judging and/or controlling another’s behaviours is just a waste of that precious time.

From the cradle we are taught that we are responsible for how other people feel, as children our whole lives are set up to keep our parents happy and appeased otherwise there are consequences.  It’s handed down through the generations, through parents, school, church, state and on the list goes. 

To believe that you have any real control over another persons behaviour or emotions is illusory, because it’s all conditional, which means it can be broken at any time should the other party find it becomes too much or suits them to do different, which is always their divine right as it is yours.

If you were a business owner how long do you think it would survive if you devoted the majority of the working day involving yourself in what the other businesses were doing?  If you’re over there, you’re not here, if you’re not here, your not taking care of the most important business of all…your own.  You can only be focused on one life at a time and in order to make it any kind of success it needs to be your own.

It makes you a better person.  If you are managing your own life and business then you will find that you are happier, more peaceful, because even if it’s not ideal you know you are steering it and going somewhere with it.  That immediately makes you a better person to be around.  Someone easier to be with, have fun with and love.   Others will thank you for not being in their business, particularly if you were not invited in to it in the first place.

If you don’t like someone’s behaviour then move on, temporarily or permanently, you do not have to stay with anyone who exhibits unpleasant, undesirable traits, so you remove yourself from it mentally, physically, emotionally whichever is required at the time, you do what you need to do for you in the management of You Inc.  How they choose to deal with that is then their own business, and they will do what they feel that they need to do in relation to their own lives and what is best for them.

We are multi-faceted bundle of experiences, emotions, behaviours and desires and each one of us is different, we could be here for any eternity and never really ever figure out another person and what really makes them tick, we rarely ever really get to meet ourselves on that level and it certainly won’t happen if we’re busily involved running the lives of others.

What other people do is none of my business, what other people think of me is none of my business. 

 

A Story Of Success

“Outliers are those who have been given opportunities – and who have had the strength and the presence of mind to seize them.”   Malcolm Gladwell

Am I ever the proud Mum!

My lovely little man Josh, earned himself a place at the local Grammar School.  It is ranked among some of the top schools in the country, so a double whammy for him.  This has been the culmination of over 18 months consideration, focus and work and today it paid off.

Whilst we were celebrating with him and family members I was drawn back to the events that had brought us to this point.  He is about to attend a school that has the potential to open many doors to him, today his Quantum Field Of Possibilities just expanded exponentially, that his experience of secondary school has already been changed.  He’s attending a school where the pupils have worked to get there, they want to learn, a school environment where being clever is celebrated and encouraged.

This journey started for all of us just over 18 months ago.  There are two things that stand out from this result. 

The first one is coincidence.  I never see coincidences as random things that just happen to us; I see them as points where actions, ideas and beliefs that have been previously set in motion come together and create a co-incidence .   Put another way it’s the place where fate and destiny meet up.

I was reading Malcolm Gladwell’s book Outliers.  Not one that was high on my required reading list, it just so happened to have come back in to the library as I was in there returning a book, and in that moment I decided to give it a go.  Another co-incidence; I read anything that grabs my attention that may give me more information as to how to improve upon what I have already learnt and how I currently work, or that will explain why people do what they do and how we can use that information to build further upon our successes or change that which does not serve us.  This book covers both & there it is newly returned and sitting in the book of the week shelf which was right next to me.   

Outliers is the story of why certain people are successful based on environment and opportunities.   In it I learnt much about the education system and that class & culture make the differences to people because of the belief systems about life and themselves that they had, their behaviours within that belief system and the advantages that came their way, some through luck and others through just fate or timing of being in the right place at the right time.  Rather like me being in the library at that moment and then choosing to read what was contained within the pages with an open mind.  To be available to a new perspective.

As a result of those things that I’d come to understand from the book regarding education, I raised some of those issues during a BBQ at my cousin’s, as she is a teacher.  I actively sought her opinion on what I’d gleaned from the book, most of which she agreed with.  This then prompted me to voice my concerns regarding Josh’s maths skills and enquire as to what she recommended I could do to help him get the most out of his schooling.

The upshot was that he was enrolled in to one of the tutoring groups that she ran for children wishing to attend the Grammar Schools. From that it quickly became clear that he was more than capable to sit the required 11+ examination should he wish to. 

That was the opportunity through coincidences, of which there are too many to consider, especially when you look at the ones that the author Malcolm Gladwell highlights about those of his ancestors that culminated in his existence and ultimately becoming an author who wrote a book that appeared on the shelf in my local library.   

Then comes the strength and presence of mind to seize these presented opportunities.

Tutoring and homework in addition to that set by school isn’t at the top of your average 11 year olds wish list - nor mine if I’m honest.  But if it is what is necessary to achieve a desired outcome, we make the outcome the reason for doing it, this then gives us the drive to do that which we must in order to create the life we want.  Josh decided that he wanted to go to the Grammar school instead of the local one. Yes of course he was no doubt sold the idea by us, or my cousin but he was excited about it and could see the possibilities for himself, he knew he was the one going to have to do the work, but his belief that he was more than capable of passing the exam was behind his decision. 

People have to want something themselves, it has to be a desire that they feel positively about.  Sure we can coerce someone or worse still intimidate or scare them in to doing something, but it rarely sees them going the distance and they don’t complete the task to the best of their abilities, they just do enough to get by.

The desire is what gives us the strength to complete the work, and the aforementioned presence of mind to both realise and seize opportunities as they present themselves.  It is basically what gives us our grit and determination when the going feels like it’s getting a little tough.  Sure, there were times for all of us here when it got a little hard to keep Josh going, and for us to know when and how much to push him through it.  Scheduling his homework times through some of the school holidays isn’t fun as a parent who remembers very clearly disliking homework schedules themselves, and then spending our time coaching him when he didn’t understand the different strategies for working out the answers, but he had decided he wanted something and we supported him, it became a team effort, one where all knew the goal.

Today’s events have reminded Tim and I again that if you work and prepare for it, then when opportunity comes you are ready for it.  We have a boy who at the tender age of 11 has had his first experience of that, and more importantly understands this valuable lesson in life.  His self-esteem and sense of being in control of his destiny has gone through the roof, but most importantly of all he understands more than ever that if you dare to dream and are prepared to put the work in, then you are more than in the running to see that dream realised in one form or another.

Law of Attractions Public Enemy Number 1

In the current climate we are under constant bombardment from fear based media.  We see, hear and read daily about war, financial cut-backs, failing health, violence, not to mention the trash mags ripping people to shreds over their looks, behaviour or fashion choices.  When did that become entertainment???  Ahhh don’t get me started.  

With this daily pile of media sewage dished up to us is it any wonder that it doesn’t take much for our internal focus to change from one of abundance to one of lack.  Problem is to truly create we need to be operating from a place of love and leave fear behind.  That which is created through fear will never allay feelings of lack, which ultimately creates more fear.

We live in an abundant Universe, there is enough for everyone all we have to do is ask and it is ours.  As we have yet to learn instant manifestation then this abundance can take time to appear physically, which in a fear based world is no bad thing.  Imagine if every negative thought and/or image you had manifested instantly - scary doesn’t even begin to cover it.   There’s a saying that I use a lot, “Nature abhors a vacuum” - if you are not deliberately filling your reality with positivity it will get filled with something, and fear is the predominant filler of choice for the masses.

There are times when I myself am afraid to ask for what I want.  Having grown up with a mother who didn’t even have a glass, let alone a half empty one, discussing your dreams and asking for what you wanted, in any way, just caused major upset and opened the door to the inevitable diatribe about the harshness of life, the limitations of love, money and happiness.  This, of course, was all to ‘save me’ from the disappointment of seeing any overly high life expectations crushed on the reality of the world, so best learn not to ask in the first place.

So here I am many years later still finding myself hesitating at times when it comes to putting my Universal Abundance Request Form in for processing, despite so many times seeing it deliver.   So why am I still not reporting back to all and sundry about how much my cup permanently runneth over?

And here we find ourselves back at the beginning…fear.  On average my cup is full-ish, brimming over on a good day, and showing signs of evaporation on others.  I’m well rehearsed now in being able to identify the cause of the tide lines when they appear, they are the times when I am allowing fear in to my life, when I am taking life far too seriously.  May be it was because I allowed myself to dwell on a newspaper headline that I didn’t stop myself from reading, overhearing a news report before I could get to the off button, or stuck with a doom and gloom merchant whose drug of choice is listing all that is rotten in their life or the world. These things I have cut from my life but every now and again they sneak up and find me and if I’m not prepared my mind starts to dwell on what might be, it’s then the negative questions randomly start popping up in my mind.

“What if the recession gets worse instead of better?”

“What if it all gets worse out there?”

“What’s the point in me even starting to follow my dreams with all this going on?” blah blah blah

It’s called the What If game and depending on how it’s played as to how rotten you can make yourself feel.  Any time you are aware that you are in a state of fear, I’ll wager you’ve played your own version of the What If game.

Once you’ve identified that your perspective is being based on fear then it becomes about consciously choosing to focus back on the positive.  The negative will always be there but what a waste of this wonderful life, a brain that outstrips the worlds most powerful computers and a body fitted with all the senses required to experience the joys of life to the max.   It’s about being focused on a desire and the underlying emotion behind that focus.   All emotions are driven by one of two base emotions Fear or Love.  We know how life turns out when lived in fear, just look around you.

Love creates, fear immobilises/destroys. 

For our lives to stand a chance of becoming something we must choose love to navigate through our life experiences.  There are things that we can do to keep us on that track that is akin to planning a road trip.

Know Your Destination

Invest time & create your life’s dream, the experiences you wish to have, the feelings you wish to feel.  Make it as big, colourful and as bold as you possibly can.  This is no time to hold back, it has to get you excited every time you think about it.  It has to fill you with feel good feelings, when you see yourself living it.  This can take time if you’re not used to doing it. I know it sounds daft, but it takes practise to allow ourselves to let go and feel that good over our dreams.

When On The Road

Focus is what this is about.  Keep your eye on the destination: Decide that you are going to go for it as far as your dreams are concerned, really what’s the alternative?  Live in fear, dream mediocre dreams if you even bother to have dreams at all?…I think not.

Commit to visiting your dream as often as is possible (Consult the Map) There are key times in which you need to do this.  The most important one is to have it handy for the moments that you realise you are operating from fear and pull it up in your mind as a counter measure.  There are many of the early advocates of positive thinking that suggest that first thing in the morning as you wake up and last thing at night as you are drifting off to sleep are when the mind is at its most powerful creatively.

Stay alert to when you are in fear mode, sometimes it’s insidious and we don’t even realise we’re feeling it.  As soon as you become conscious that you are in negativity go back and revisit your dream.  Your vision may not come to mind straight away but be persistent in viewing it and letting those good feelings flood your body.  Remember fear is only a state of mind.  Start taking charge and you decide the state.

If you get lost/sidetracked, keep your destination in mind and after a bathroom break and refreshments get back on the road no matter how long you stopped for.

There is a route that will get you to your destination.  This may be the Road Less Travelled, but rest assured there are others that have gone before you who will attest to the fact that if you keep at it you WILL absolutely get there.  Be open-minded to new routes if your planned one becomes too full of obstacles, but never give up on getting there.

Bon Voyage

 

 

More Positive Thought Required Please

We (that being Tim & I) are out on our daily walk with Marv. 

Marv is actually Martha but thanks to a 3 year olds inability to say Martha, we ended up with Marva and now abbreviated to Marv, it's what we do in our family, a quirk, a foible however you see it, but rarely does anyone retain the original name they started out with.  When on a walk Marve is really well behaved, she's 100% focused on chasing after and retrieving her ball.  She's a joy to take out, the only area that I would say is lacking is the minimal amount of time spent on a lead, where she pulls.  She's far better behaved off the lead in walking to heel, it's almost like she resents being harnessed and needs to make a point that this is a completely unnecessary evil in what is otherwise a great time for her.

 

That said between the park and the path to the river we have to negotiate a vey busy main road, with lorries, buses and white van man hurtling along.  This is the one point in the walk that we put Marv on the lead for her safety and for our peace of mind.  Today though was different, for some reason we found ourselves walking along the narrow pavement next to said busy road with Marv walking perfectly at heel WITHOUT the lead.  I'm following up the rear observing and mentally commentating on how well she's behaving when for no apparent reason, bham out of the blue, my mind is making pictures of Marv suddenly running across the busy road.  A picture where I see her distracted by something on the other side of the road which leads her to just belt across.  I am now feeling fear throughout my body as you can imagine, my mental pictures are bad enough, but I'm also now feeling my future guilt when she's maimed or dead. I can hear me berating myself for not having reacted to what I was feeling and get Tim to put her lead on.  As it turned out he was making similar pictures in that moment and he'd leashed her before I could get the words out.

 

Now, I 'talk' with someone, I don't know who or what it is and I choose not to declare it to be something specific as I truly don't know what or where it comes from.  What I do know is that I trust what it has to say, partly because it makes absolute sense once I have the answer, and secondly because the answers and actions that I may need to take are not always the easiest ones that I would like, but they are always the truthful evaluation of the situation.   I say potential as I know that I always have a choice as to whether I act on what I have learnt.  I am informed but never pressured, I am left alone with my thoughts and of course my freewill. 

 

I have conversations with this person/entity/my higher self/intuition, (call it what you will).  I say conversations, it usually goes along the lines of I ponder something, I then ask a question about what, why, where or when and I then receive what I refer to as a 'download' of information pertaining to the question/pondering that I've just had.  My answer/explanation comes 'down' all in one go and affects more than one sense; I am seeing it, hearing and feeling it all together as one experience. It feels like I imagine Neo in the Matrix must feel, when information is uploaded to his mind as he plugs back in to the Matrix again.   He learns all manor of things by having the relevant software programmes uploaded to his mind which enable him to know, mentally and physically the newly installed experience.  It's the same thing, this is just knowledge about something rather than a new ability, for now...no special powers have as of yet been download.

 

I digress.  This mornings information was about that which we attract in to our lives.  I am always interested in how to make things in our lives better, to live as our higher selves and experience the potential joy that is available to all should we choose it.  

 

NB: By Our, I am asking for everyone that is on a quest for the knowledge that I truly believe is the next step in Our evolution.  An evolution that will see Us changing through our spiritual connection to ourselves, each other and our environment.

 

I wondered why I'd feared Martha's potential demise when there didn't appear to be any real reason to think that way, she'd shown no signs of running off.  I then experienced the following:

 

"As you live now in this world, in this dimension, it is just as well that you are incapable of instant manifestation in your lives as you have yet to master your thoughts and emotions.  You are quick to let them run away with you and are quick to view a negative potential outcome before you view a positive one.  It is through your emotions that you create your lives. Fear is a powerful emotion as is it's opposite; Love.   Humanity has mastered feeling varying degrees of fear on a sliding scale, but the scale rarely moves back past the zero point, at best it musters up feelings of nice, which are not feelings of creation, for that you need love, love without doubt, a knowing and deliberate love."  

 

When we do apply love to our visions then things start to happen, and there are times that we have all done that, but in the world that we inhabit where fear is such a strong and powerful emotion, we are not encouraged to express the same level of love, in fact apart from the acknowledgement of love in regard to relationships and religion, love is not acknowledged of being of any great importance at all.  Little wonder we are not well practised in the art of creating feelings in order for them to be reflected in a physical manifestation.

 

In theory, based on studies of the Quantum Universe, we could be and should be capable of instant manifestation through our thoughts coupled with a powerful emotion. Luckily, for us, we are unable to do that, as very few are in complete control of the random thoughts of the mind.  I for one am relieved, as I understand this concept, yet still have been unable to quieten and control my mind at all times.  This morning being a classic example; where I may have found myself with one very flat dog.  Thanks to the time lag of instant manifestation our nightmares don't come to fruition either, not without considerable effort.  

 

There  are  those that will tell you that they always have bad luck and that if something awful is going to happen, it happens to them and they are right.  If you press them further they will tell you about their fears, the pictures that they make and the things the accompanying internal dialogue tells them could go wrong.  It is so deeply rooted in their belief system, it does, they get what they came for, without realising that they are the creators of these experiences.  

 

We have to learn to control our thoughts and keep them guided at all times towards that which we wish to create and experience in our lives, that, coupled with the strength of the emotion of love, which is what breathes life in to our desires.  It takes practise but that is part of the life lesson.  We have to work in creating that which we desire, but it is in that work, that once our creation has manifested, we feel so good about it and ourselves, that it will have been worth the effort that was placed in to it, a feeling that we would be denied should it just be handed to us on a plate. A feeling of our own power to create and design our lives as we would wish them to be, instead of being buffeted around on the whim of others desires for their lives, which is where most of us find ourselves at this moment in time.  

 

Next time Marv will go across the road with a vision of her being safe and at heel, accompanied by a big dollop of love whilst viewing the image.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Your Material Illusion

When we look at the Earth objectively, as an entity separate to us, it has been here doing it’s thing for billions of years.  Life forms have come and gone yet it remains constantly evolving despite life's comings and goings. 

 

We are here as a species for a fraction of the time the Earth has existed and we have no idea how long our species has on this planet.  What is guaranteed is that all of our puffed up ideas about our intelligence and greatness count for nothing during the blink of an eye that we’ve been here both individually and even as a species.  

 

Generations come and go and this ridiculous obsession with who and what we are, what we possess and leave when we die counts for nothing.  These are merely thoughts and perceptions rooted in how we would like to be seen as significant by others.  The only hope you ever have of being remembered beyond your children’s life span is that which you contribute as a Human Being to others.  The only ones that are remembered positively decades later are those that contributed to society, to others, to the evolution of humankind in some form or another.

 

The land you think you own or are going to own will never be yours.  It belongs to Mother Earth and she can take it all away from you in a snap.  This is the illusion and when you understand it, you are free to contribute in a bigger more important way.  

 

You are not your things.